Once I realize God is in control, I have a daily, moment by moment choice to let him be in control. It goes back to the original temptation, "you will be as god". When I control in essence I'm saying to myself and others, "I'm god" and don't need God.
This statement is not intended to condemn or put a guilt trip on anyone, rather to free us from having to play god in our daily lives. I know that there are a lot of things keeping me from trusting God and having a true understanding of His love for his children, but it's ironic because us trying to control our lives is the very thing keeping us from experiencing that abundant life He promised.
I have to realize I have control of myself in the sense that I have control over my thoughts and feelings, my choices and how I handle the consequences of those choices, responsibilities and boundaries. It is very empowering when I realize that I can control these things, I don't have to worry about controlling others or my environment. God frees us from offense (others actions controlling me) when I begin to trust Him to be in control and take ownership of the things that I can control.
There is a great definition of progress. It's not where I end up, rather it's finding out along the way what doesn't work and then making appropriate changes to change course. A control freak doesn't realize they are controlling, but when God starts to reveal it then heal it, a control freak needs to have the grace on his/herself to realize they are a work in progress.
Control in itself is not bad when in the appropriate hands, but when in the wrong hands it can be devastating.
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